I read not long ago that statistically speaking, romance writers, specifically erotic romance writers, have a very high divorce rate.This gave me pause, not because I was worried about my marriage...I was already divorced...but because I wondered...WHY?

Wouldn't you think with all our passion and imagination, we writers would have magic between the sheets?  Apparently not.

Call me naive, but I recently got a glimpse into what might be at least part of the issue.

I think we've all had people ask us where our inspiration comes from, who our characters were modeled after, were they based on people we know?  And the honest answer to that is, from everything we see and do, yes, including people we know.  Writers are sponges, absorbing bits and pieces of the world around them.  These things become fodder for our imaginations.  Emphasis on IMAGINATION.

Recently I began to date a guy who was an avid reader.  It was one of the common threads that brought us together.  To my delight, he read my books.  Liked my books! Could it get better?

At one point he mentioned he was unsure if he could live up to my expectations.

Expectations?  Me?

Naturally I asked for an explanation.  His answer floored me!
He was afraid he wouldn't measure up to my heroes!

After I picked my teeth up off the floor, I assured him no one could and shouldn't be expected to.  They were fantasies, like Superman or the Easter Bunny.

Our relationship continued on for several months and then rather abruptly ended.  Maybe it wasn't just him worrying about his end of the fantasy.  Maybe I didn't live up to my heroines either.  Had he hoped that I would?  Oh dear, oh dear! Since he never said, I can only guess.

More food for thought...fodder for our imaginations?  Who does this sort of research anyway?
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Hellofa Week! 08/06/2011
 
It's been a hell of a week for yours truly.  Where to begin?

At the urging of a friend, I signed up for one of those on-line dating thingamabops.  It's a new age, people are busy, who has time?  I understand the concept.  But remember, I've been out of the dating loop for over 3 decades.  (God, that makes me sound so old!)  So what do I get right out of the box?  Two, count them, 2 internet predators.  It was quite the learning experience.  Perhaps more so for them, than me.   LOL

Boys, we southern girls didn't just fall off the cabbage truck.  We will find you and it won't be pretty.

So you pick yourself up, dust your bruised ego and climb back on that bronc.  Time will tell if I'll find Mr. Right or not.  I'm in no rush.  Much.
I spoke to a very nice man last evening...

Two job interviews this week as well.  Waiting on the outcomes.  They are still interviewing so I will have a lot of competition.I should know something by the end of next week.

Dare to Dream is out on Amazon!  Yeah, it surprised me too.  I have my release date pretty firm for
Mr. Fix-it--August 30th.  I still need my cover art and line edits, but all systems are go otherwise.  Check My Stories page for blurbs and buy links.

The folks in New York still have parts or all of my urban fantasy series.
~sigh~ New York has their own time table which I am pretty sure will result in my posthumous acclaim. When I said I wanted to be on the New York Times Best Seller's list in five years I didn't mean five after I died.

My fault, I wanted to be a writer.

Speaking of dead.  It's been 105 or more for a week.  Zero rain.  I'm feeding my winter hay.  This does not bode well.

Hugs!
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